In life, there will always exist some complications, ups and downs, and even tragedies. But generally speaking, life is not nearly as complicated as most people make it out to be. If you thoughtfully observe what most people spend their days complaining about, and how they allow it to significantly affect their mood, it will be easy to see that most people’s stress originates from self-created drama. However, most people do not see it from this perspective and, instead, they are convinced that they are unable to be satisfied because the external sources that cause them stress do not go away. In fact, if most people heard me talking this way they would assume that I am wealthy and in perfect health. Because, to them, someone can only think- and feel -this way if they are lucky; aka: have a lot of money.

These people spend their days and nights complaining about other people, looking through their social media, absorbing themselves in celebrity gossip, and watching their favorite shows on TV from one or more of their numerous apps that they pay for. They complain about money, but they swear that canceling their subscriptions to these apps is not an option they can take. They have low self-esteem, envy, or feel like their life is not adequate compared to that of others, but they swear that deactivating their social media is not an option; they need it to communicate with long distance relatives or “friends”. Some people utilize social media strictly for business purposes, and that is fine. Most people, however, claim they use social media for business purposes but they also find themselves lost in their phones; looking up profiles of people they know or used to know.

We live in a society that tells us that the more friends we have, the better. A lot of people buy into this, and they live their lives accordingly. For those who believe in the abstract concept of time: no human is exempt from a 24-hour day. Within these 24 hours, there are things we need to do alongside a stream of decisions that we make. Some of those hours should be used to get sufficient sleep. Some of those hours are used to care for other living things that are dependent on us; such as animals, children, and elderly parents or grandparents who cannot independently care for themselves. And, of course, some of those hours are spent at work (although that opens another can of worms which I will discuss at a later time). A lot of people will try to convince you that, after all of these responsibilities are said and done, they do not have the time for anything else. However, if you were a hidden observer in their life, it would be clear that they also in fact spend a lot of their time and energy on meaningless shit.

The truth is that most people fill their days engaging in activities that are both required and optional, but they view their optional choices as either a requirement, a need, or something they cannot control. Furthermore, more likely than not, people choose to spend their free time doing things that have a negative impact on their mental health as well as impede on their ability to transcend into a new dimension of reality; a reality filled with personal growth, success, and prosperity.

It’s complex in this life, as there are things we cannot control, things we can control within socially acceptable standards, and things we can control but changing them would be deemed socially deviant. But most people fixate on the things that they cannot control and place little to no thought on the things that they can change either because it is deemed unpopular or weird by society or because they view it as something they need. For example: They will allow themselves to feel angry all day about what someone else did or said, spend their day gossiping and complaining about it, and utilize their free time watching videos on social media to “unwind”.

And why do we need so many friends anyways? Most people convince themselves and each other that they need to have many friends and acquaintances for purposes of “networking”. But if they were honest with themselves and evaluated the quality and effectiveness of these relationships on their personal growth, they would quickly realize that most of these friends do not – and will never – help them advance in life. Because, the truth is, these relationships are only spreading our energy too thin; they, in actuality, hinder our ability to succeed. Instead of looking inward and focusing on the internal, we fixate on the external, even if it does not serve us well. The relationship that you have with yourself should be your top priority. After this, the relationships you have with those dearest to your heart (children, a parent, a grandparent, animals you care for, a sibling, etc.) are of greatest importance and value. In terms of friendships with no familial relation, a person is lucky if they have one good friend. If someone does not have one good friend outside of their familial circle, it is perfectly okay; it is not a justification to maintain superficial relationships. Superficial relationships do not bring us happiness nor success. Unfortunately, a lot of people devote more of their time and energy on meaningless connections that they end up pushing aside those that are dearest in their life that they tend to take for granted. It is important to note that not all families are perfect, and there will inevitably exist some relatives that are not good for the soul. You cannot control the family that you were born into, but you can control who you choose to invest your energy in; this applies to all of the above whether it be a family relative, a person you have known since childhood, a coworker, a neighbor, social media friends, etc.

Most people are attached to materialistic and superficial things because it gives them a false sense of security, happiness, and success; it also helps them to feel accepted by others. They fill their days with the entertainment that society’s reality offers them. They waste their time and energy on people and things that can only give them a false sense of happiness and success when, in fact, they live life feeling unsatisfied, insecure, and insufficient. The act of de-complicating your life inevitably means going against the grain of societal norms and expectations. Society tells us that we are weird if we do not use any social media. Society treats us as if we are socially inept if we do not engage in gossip or negative small talk with others. Society tells us that it is rude to end relationships “out of nowhere” with people we have known for years, even if they are not good for our soul. Society tells us that a deep connection with ourselves and nature is not enough to be considered to have a fulfilling life. All human beings possess varying levels of self-awareness and states of consciousness. Additionally, a vast majority of human beings are so programmed that they fully buy into the social illusion of reality. With that being said, living your life accordingly to the thoughts and opinions of others will only result in your own cognitive dissonance. The thought of detaching yourself from society might sound lonely, but there is so much more than meets the eye; the social illusion of reality merely acts as a blinder to the truth.

There is just so much to say. I will continue later. Thank you for reading.